Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Give Triple-A Treatment: Attention, Affirmation, Appreciation

In John Maxwell's book, 25 Ways to Win with People: How to Make Others Feel Like a Million Bucks, he encourages readers to focus on the people that we meet, make them look good, rather than ourselves.

This includes being able to say something positive and encouraging to the person we deal with especially on the first 30-seconds of our conversation. To do that requires giving triple-a treatment - attention, affirmation, and appreciation.

Support through action
Furthermore, our action should speak louder than words. In growing relationships, think about what is special, unique, and wonderful about a person? How can you show it to others? Back up high opinion of a person with action that reinforces it.

This is important as for those who have achieved humble successes today are greatly attributed to the fact that someone (or a lot) believed they could and told them so.

Make dreams come true
When a person shares their dream with you, it is the center of that person's soul. Offer specific help in bringing another person closer to making the dream a reality. This can include starting a business, finishing a project, perform well in a competition, among others. Once you help a person win or make their dreams come true, you have a friend for life.

We can't do it alone
Maxwell said that success in life has everything to do with what we do for others. At the same time, we all need others to do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. That is also why we should focus our thinking on the value we can add to others.

The book, 25 Ways to Win with People: How to Make Others Feel Like a Million Bucks, is definitely a must read book for anyone who wants to establish great relationship with people.

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