Boost your friendliness and likeability factor
In the age of social media, establishing a quality relationship and meet new folks became both easier and a bit complicated. Although most of us can connect to each other with social media sites like Facebook and Twitter, but doesn't mean that I already earned another person's friendship (and vice-versa).
In the field I'm in, establishing a quality relationship is important. That is why I enjoyed Tim Sanders' earlier book, "Love is the Killer App: How to Win Business and Influence Friends". I learned one must strive to be a great source of information and share them as the opportunity or need arises to a pool of contacts that are important to you.
Another book that Tim authored is "The Likeability Factor: How to Boost your L-Factor & Achieve Your Life's Dreams." This is where I realized that friendliness is a communication event. It is not you - who will say that you are friendly, but the people around you instead.
Becoming likable requires working on the following four areas:
In the field I'm in, establishing a quality relationship is important. That is why I enjoyed Tim Sanders' earlier book, "Love is the Killer App: How to Win Business and Influence Friends". I learned one must strive to be a great source of information and share them as the opportunity or need arises to a pool of contacts that are important to you.
Another book that Tim authored is "The Likeability Factor: How to Boost your L-Factor & Achieve Your Life's Dreams." This is where I realized that friendliness is a communication event. It is not you - who will say that you are friendly, but the people around you instead.
Becoming likable requires working on the following four areas:
- Friendliness.
Overcome traits that make you unfriendly. If these traits, the good and bad ones, are unknown, ask a friend and those close to you for feedback. Work on them. - Be relevant.
Once a connection is established, your friendship will only matter if one can establish a sense of relevance in other people's interest, wants, and needs. The strength of connection depends if you meet a high-interest or trivial need. - Empathy.
Are you able to see, feel, or experience concerns from another person's point of view? According to Tim, turn-off style is those who keep referencing to themselves or their experience as it shows a lack of genuine interest. - Realness.
Tim said that time flies when you spend it with a real person. Sensing a person's realness is not based on what the other say, but more on the trust that you feel inside and out for the other. What kills this element are factors like lying, hypocrisy, and insincerity.
- Bring out the best in others.
- Get recognized.
- Outperform.
- Overcome life's challenges.
- Enjoy better health.
- Be a top choice (win life's popularity contests: job, relationship, friendship).