Sunday, December 31, 2006

The Platinum Rule

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is known as the Golden Rule.

I just learned of the new rule from Karl Albrecht's "Social Intelligence: The New Science of Success", this is the Platinum Rule, that is an enhancement of the Golden Rule.

It is "Do unto others as others prefer to be done unto." This is in recognition that the taste of people are not the same.

Saturday, December 30, 2006

Learn to write and speak in E-Prime

One thing I learned from Karl Albrecht's "Social Intelligence: The New Science of Success" is the need to learn the language of sanity, E-Prime. This means avoiding the use of the following words as much as possible as they lead to mental rigidity, dogmatism, stereotyping.

  • all "to-be" forms and combinations
  • am
  • are and aren't
  • is and are
  • was and wasn't
  • were and weren't
  • be
  • been

Average sentence length must be no more than 20 words, avoid jargon, and always in active voice (e-prime).

Social intelligence requires speaking with clarity and getting rid of semantic malfunctions such as:

  • Opinionitis (Ex. Online gaming is a waste of time)
  • All-speak (Ex. All politicians are corrupt)
  • Or-speak (Ex. You are pro-chacha or anti-chacha)
  • Should-speak (Ex. You should dump that guy and get a new one)
  • Dogmatism (Ex. Anybody who voted for that Senator have self-serving agenda)
  • Labeling (Ex. The people against charter change are elitist.)
  • Sarcasm (Ex. If you used your head, that problem won't be there now)

Antidotes can include:

  • Self-reference vs. Opinionitis (Ex. I don't have time for online gaming as much as I want to )
  • Limiters and qualifiers vs. All-speak (Ex. Some politicians are corrupt)
  • Gray-scale language Or-speak (Ex. There are a lot of ways to look at the charter change issue)
  • Offering options and possibilities vs. Should-speak (Ex. You might want to consider other suitors.)
  • Limiters and qualifiers vs. Dogmatism (Ex. I don't favor the programs of that Senator.)
  • Specifying vs. Labeling (Ex. Some groups doesn't seem to favor charter change.)
  • Neutral language vs. Sarcasm (Ex. I can give you some suggestions to that problem if you like.)

The brain can process 500 words per minute but we can only speak in 150 words. There's 350 words per minute dead time that has to be managed. Of course, some of us do fill it up through other tasks like text messaging while talking. Being provocative (setting bold expectations or agenda) or specific (I have 3 points to tell you), can help in keeping the brain of the parties busy.

Friday, December 29, 2006

Nourishing persons in our lives

I just finished reading Karl Albrecht's "Social Intelligence: The New Science of Success" a few days ago. It is one of the best books I've read this year and made me cautious on how I communicate with people.

One of the tasks that Karl Albrecht asked readers to ponder on the most nourishing persons we have in our lives. This includes:
  • Most positive (starts with the best side of things)
  • Most generous (helpful with no questions asked)
  • Most reliable (who will be there for you when you need it)
  • Most energetic (vibrant supporter)
  • Most enthusiastic (zest for life)
  • Most thoughtful (always remembering)
  • Kindest (treats people with love and respect)
  • Smartest (gives advice, support, guidance)
  • Shows the most interest (shows you are important)
  • Most fun (hang out without fear of being criticised or judged)
  • Funniest (no holds-barred laughter)

This can be just one person or we have several persons in our lives that completes it. Senator Ramon Magsaysay Jr. is definitely one of them.

Sunday, December 17, 2006

Becoming a Success by Helping Others

I got an interesting question lately as to how should one measure the success of their ventures, particularly of a website.

It made me reflect as success parameters can be different from one person to the other. Some measure it based on their traffic rank, articles, visitors, projects, among others. I've been through that stage and can easily say that I've graduated from it already.

My biggest satisfaction or success parameter comes from seeing others become successful in their ventures. Being part of that success, even in the smallest way, counts a lot to me.

Community impact is the most important parameter in my website success. It is how you help others, in achieving their goals, that count the most.

I guess this is also the reason why I formed the Club.